How about a magic trick.
Trust me. It is as simple as that.
When it comes to picking a home, particularly one in the suburbs, it is common practice to pour over statistics, examine demographics, ratings and sorts of reports. Buyers desire the best place to buy especially if they want to raise a family.
But before you even start looking at homes let alone putting in offers. I would like to present a trick that will give you an idea if you where you want to live is the best place for you.
On a weekend get dressed in your Sunday best. Nothing too fancy but definitely above casual. The most important thing is that you look presentable. Then go to the desired neighborhood. If they have public transportation, all the better. Take that Metro North or bus into that area.
If your desired location is near a town or in a town, definitely walk through it. Look at the commercial strip. Examine what type of business are located in that area. If there is a Starbucks buy a cup of coffee. Take a seat and read a newspaper.
When you are walking on the street, ask directions to places you already know like the train station. Do it in different areas in town far out of sight of the location.See how people react. Do they make an effort to help or do they blow you off? Gauge the responses and see if there any similarities.
What makes a town appropriate for an individual is the people, it is absolutely imperative to get a feel for the people.
When you are partaking in these activities, observe the reactions of the people around you. Even simply walking past someone can give you an idea of whether the area is a place that welcomes new comers.
If you people are giving cold stares as you walk past them or move away from you when sit down in a chair or don't bother saying thank you when you open the door for them or they respond to a simple question about where the train station is with a I don't know, then this place might not be for you.
Remember this, it is not your fault. Contrary to popular belief America is not a melting pot. People can be just as a provincial as everyone else, it is their right. They can't engage in acts of discrimination which include steerage and red lining. But they have the right to be cold and rude to others who are different from them. It is a pretty stupid way to live but it is their lifestyle and they are free to live it. For those of you who don't give a f**k and want to live where you want, my hat's off to you. But there is nothing wrong with taking the path of least resistance and finding a place where you will be welcome.
For those of you who act in a provincial manner, consider this a warning. World is changing in more ways than we can imagine. Those who are unable or willing to adapt to outsiders, please do not say you were not warned. The barbarians are at the gate and they are armed with lots and lots of cash. And with money comes power. Something a lot of people in America are lacking these days.
It is not about we shall overcome. It is we shall overwhelm.